In life and business there are days where you feel floored.
A phone call, email or something else lands and suddenly changes everything... Or at least it appears to.
At this point it's vital to notice the pattern of thoughts that come into your mind.
How do you feel? Have you felt like this before? What happened then? Was it really the end of the world?
I'm all about mindset; protecting, observing and improving it whenever I can.
On dark days I have a strategy that I use and it tends to get me back into the right frame of mind pretty quickly.
The first thing I do is to try and truly own the negative feeling.
I close my eyes and focus on what has caused the disturbance... I try to make the feeling as strong as I can so that I feel the full impact of it right in my chest.
This sounds counter-intuitive, but believe me, it works.
Running away from the feeling or trying to distract yourself from it simply means the issue has to be dealt with further down the line. And the time in between is either tarnished or ruined.
What's the point of that?
I always find that the more I try to make the feeling stronger, the more it actually fades... Weird that, it's almost like Ryan Holiday says, The Obstacle is the Way.
The next thing I do is try to list in my mind the things in my life I am thankful for, that I maybe take for granted.
Things like health, friends & family, having a warm home and food in the fridge. Things that are fundamental to survival and happiness.
The last thing I do is to watch a short motivational video on YouTube or listen to a song with high energy that raises my spirits.
Music and film are awesome tools to manipulate your mood. Watching a comedy and laughing releases endorphins in the brain... Listening to an upbeat and uplifting song releases dopamine in the brain and gets heart pumping faster.
Energy and action change moods. This idea is key.
Dark moods come and they go... The thing to remember is to face them, not run away.
All this will do is prolong the agony.